Demisexuality and Mental Health, shutting up bullshitters.

14. When people tell you something like “you need therapy” or “get help!”—how do you respond? Have you found any particular method that works well for getting people to stop telling you that?

Be odd, but not aggressively. Make an off-colour joke, stare them down, resort to sarcasm, whatever suits your style, really. I’m not a person gifted with good social skills, much confidence or charisma. I’ve learned that putting people off balance, just a bit, provides a moment to push them in another direction.

Here’s an example: I went to buy something in a market and had to negotiate for the price. The guy opposite me named one that was too high. I didn’t know what to say, so an awkward silence fell. As I stared at him, he seemed to hesitate, repeated the price once more. I finally gave up and turned to go. He yelled a much lower price. Heartened, I turned back to stare at him, now holding back a grin. He lowered the price again. I walked away with the item and a big grin on my face.

I had discovered my negotiating strategy, by accident. Act clueless and socially awkward, on purpose.

It’s a power game, if such demands are made or “suggestions” shouted, so the question is, really, how do you take back power, in your personal life or in the work place? Same strategies apply.

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Posted on June 14, 2015, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Well what they say is just rude. Do you actually believe in therapy? If not, you have your answer there. A bit rude to assume people believe in orthodox medicine.

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    • Dear Nienna, I believe the comments mentioned in the question I answered (Get therapy) are often meant in an insulting way, and it’s good to ward off insults and not let them bother you. That’s mostly what I’m trying to get across.

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