About

I am demisexual, and I would like to know more about that. There isn’t much literature on the subject, yet. Therefore, I am creating a blog to add to the discussion. Below the origin story of this blog. Go read the posts if you want more on demisexuality.

Since I’ve discovered the term as more than a curious tag on Archive of Our Own, namely, in the far more respectable realm of Youtube videos, I identify as demisexual. However, on the Kinsey scale, I lean towards heterosexual. So I am not LGBT(XI). And, to complete the picture, I’m cisgender female.

When I first discovered the word, I thought, “What’s demisexual, exactly?” I googled it. That sounds like me, I thought. I talked about it with my mother. “What’s demisexual?” she asked, and when I explained, she said, “huh, sounds like I might be too, but I wouldn’t know for sure. I met your dad and he was it for me.”

I haven’t talked much about it since. I’ve done some casual research. There’s a respectable online discussion. There’s no book available. No really. A single out-of-print one on Amazon, at the time of writing. A single book on a website (www.demisexuality.org) that can be ordered by credit card. Not very helpful when you’re from a country where credit cards aren’t all that common. It did have some amazing articles, which I ate up in half an hour, and I still wanted more.

The ‘fight’, for this sexuality, seems first of all to be a fight for the right to exist. A fight that’s more like an exploration.

So this is me, exploring.

Hello.

How are you, lovely, shiny reader? Read, respond, but I do ask you, love and respect most of all, whether you are a lurker commenting in thought or a commenter answering in words.