Carnival of Aces, April 2021: Queering, Or Acing, a New Normal

March’s Carnival of Aces was hosted by Constance Bougie, on Dreams, the festival’s masterpost may be found on the Asexual Agenda.

Living alone, in the liminal space between hope and grief, I have found my principles and beliefs deeply challenged. The media keeps talking about a new normal, usually an exhortation not to expect the good old days to come back. Well. Not all was good. We are not the same. And our future does not happen to us, this is the rest of our life, not some stranger’s. So I wanted to take this month, at the start of the rush to open society back up, to take stock of where we may want to go. We have lived in strange times, which may have brought new experiences, or led your mind down odd paths, things for which you may not even have words, they are so… out there, other. Queer, one might say.

The asexual community contains a wide variety of lives and experiences, generates more new words for new experiences than I’ve ever seen. So, how has your unique perspective impacted you in the darkest year of our lifetime, and what does it mean for the life you mean to live?

This month’s theme: queering, or acing, a new normal.

Some questions to prompt you, feel free to add your own:

What is one thing that will not be part of your ‘new normal’?

Did your (a)sexuality have an impact on your life this past year that you’d like to keep up?

Has grief, loneliness and other emotions during this year had you to reconsider some aspect in your life?

How did you find your experience of your life, body and sexuality diverging from others and what do you plan to do with that?

What does coming out of lockdown mean for your life as a person on the asexual spectrum?

What plans or wishes have you made for the ‘new normal’, considering your (a)sexuality?

Feel free to leave (a link to) your contribution, in your preferred format (and pronouns please!), at the bottom of this post or email it to

About demiandproud

I am a demisexual Christian Dutchwoman who explores the vagaries of what the intersection of those identities means. On my main blog I post a few times a month, my favourite being participating in the Carnival of Aces. I'm exploring writing about my orientation elsewhere. The pride flag in my profile picture was created with 4 eye pencils (black, purple, silver and white).

Posted on April 2, 2021, in carnival of aces and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 12 Comments.

  1. I love this theme! I also loved the last theme but was super busy in most of March dealing with feeling consumed by messaging my new friend who became my new queerplatonic partner! New Relationship Energy (NRE) and so much time talking to her meant so much less time for everything else, plus I’m also pretty busy with a bunch of other stuff all the time but I’ve been itching to get back into blogging and i will really make an effort to write for this topic this month!!


    • Thank you! I hope you’ll be able to make it. All the best with this happy development in your life.

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      • If you can extend the deadline through Saturday May 1st i perhaps still will be able to participate. Sorry for being late!


      • I swear I tried, but I was too sleep deprived to be very productive most of today. I’m going to sleep now and plan to spend 2 more hours finishing up whatever I write tomorrow, May 2nd, and I’m just gonna turn it in when it’s done even if you post the roundup before I finish.


      • Oh goodness, no worries, I’m also rather late with the roundup post. My money’s we’re all in this strange last stretch of pandemic fatigue with a hope that keeps dancing just out of our grasp (that’s my vibe these weeks, at least).

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      • I at least blogged some. I’ll probably finish the post late… But idk what to promise at this point!


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